While there is nothing that makes me happier than being a mom, the responsibilities of motherhood have to be balanced with other things to have a healthy and happy life. I, like many moms, have struggled to make myself a priority. I have battled with feeling selfish and guilty when wanting to pursue my goals and dreams, as if I lost that right once I became a mother. I then came to realize that I am the example to my children and unless I want my children to give up on their dreams, I can’t give up on mine. Whatever your goals and aspirations are, I encourage you to step out of the shadows and go for it. By realizing your dreams and goals, not only will you be happier; you will be teaching others, including your loved ones, to live life to the fullest.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson
~Liza Hughes xox
I spend almost every waking moment talking with women…about EVERYTHING. The hottest topic is always about 'weight loss', no surprise there, and that is an entirely different post but the second hottest topic is about what it means to be a 'good mom.' Many of the moms I speak to and coach put themselves on the back burner…always at the end of the line as far as caring for themselves. I'm certain that comes as no surprise either. It may be a common mindset yet its not the healthiest…for mom or her family.
The ‘All or Nothing’ way of thinking is the platform of the perfectionist and is the ultimate saboteur. Also known as thinking in black or white, it sets you up from the start to fail and is a very destructive way of moving through life. Competitive athletes, fitness enthusiasts, and really anyone who is goal oriented, have or are at risk of falling prey to this mindset which can land them in a depressive state or a funk.
Before speeding out of control like a runaway train when you get derailed from your nutrition plan, choose a different track. Life stressors can trigger emotional eating or destructive behavior that, if you allow it to, will disrupt your health and fitness goals. Add to that being unprepared and it can be a train wreck waiting to happen.
Theoretically the scale is a very helpful tool if you are trying to lose or maintain your body weight. For some though, stepping on the scale is more of a psychological battle than the logical use of a simple tool that measures weight and nothing else. The tricky part is figuring out, and then admitting, whether the numbers on the scale will motivate you or derail you. It helps if you understand what the scale is telling you.