While there is nothing that makes me happier than being a mom, the responsibilities of motherhood have to be balanced with other things to have a healthy and happy life. I, like many moms, have struggled to make myself a priority. I have battled with feeling selfish and guilty when wanting to pursue my goals and dreams, as if I lost that right once I became a mother. I then came to realize that I am the example to my children and unless I want my children to give up on their dreams, I can’t give up on mine. Whatever your goals and aspirations are, I encourage you to step out of the shadows and go for it. By realizing your dreams and goals, not only will you be happier; you will be teaching others, including your loved ones, to live life to the fullest.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson
~Liza Hughes xox
I cringe when I hear the way most women, including many of my clients, talk about themselves. My heart breaks when my clients send me baseline photos and progress photos, not because of the way they look, but because of the words they use to describe themselves. The subject line or email will include words like ‘gross’, ‘horrifying’, ‘disgusting’ and other negative and hurtful words you can think of. Some even take it a step further and include an apology to me for ‘having to look’ at their photos. The truth is that I get it. I was once one of you.
I had a social media friend reach out and ask me, "What is your energy secret? I hope to get motivated to workout and take better care of myself like you do. Where do you find your energy? I need some!"
Friends, I could literally write a book about this--and I’m working on that; but for now, I'm going to ask you a few questions that provoke thought and make a few thought provoking statements; that will help you get on the right track to finding the energy you need to take better care of yourself.
When making positive changes to your daily habits, the ONLY way you will be successful for the long term is to view the changes as long term.
It seems like this should go without saying but unfortunately it cannot. It needs to be said...and often; just like a habit.
In my over 10 years of coaching experience, the women who have been successful in adopting a healthy lifestyle are the ones who treat it as such. They have learned and created a healthy balance with nutrition, exercise, time management, family time, 'me time', and most importantly they've accepted that a healthy plan has no end date.
I spend almost every waking moment talking with women…about EVERYTHING. The hottest topic is always about 'weight loss', no surprise there, and that is an entirely different post but the second hottest topic is about what it means to be a 'good mom.' Many of the moms I speak to and coach put themselves on the back burner…always at the end of the line as far as caring for themselves. I'm certain that comes as no surprise either. It may be a common mindset yet its not the healthiest…for mom or her family.