While there is nothing that makes me happier than being a mom, the responsibilities of motherhood have to be balanced with other things to have a healthy and happy life. I, like many moms, have struggled to make myself a priority. I have battled with feeling selfish and guilty when wanting to pursue my goals and dreams, as if I lost that right once I became a mother. I then came to realize that I am the example to my children and unless I want my children to give up on their dreams, I can’t give up on mine. Whatever your goals and aspirations are, I encourage you to step out of the shadows and go for it. By realizing your dreams and goals, not only will you be happier; you will be teaching others, including your loved ones, to live life to the fullest.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson
~Liza Hughes xox
I remember when I first decided I wanted to compete in the fitness category of physique shows... I always loved to dance and I was so impressed watching the women perform their fitness routines..the power, the strength, the flexibility, the costumes and the entertainment value in a short jammed packed 2 minutes. It just WoW'ed me. So I made the decision I was going to kick it up a notch and train to enter the fitness category. Sounded great until I realized I couldn't do any of the mandatory moves...
There are some women who can walk out of the hospital wearing their pre-pregnancy jeans after delivering their baby…that certainly was not me and most likely, not a high percentage of women either. I don’t even understand how that’s possible, yet it happens. My body was so whacked after my second child, Sophia, I swear I was more swollen and just as huge leaving the hospital with her on the outside of my body as I was when she was still inside of me! LOL. Seriously. I had people still asking me when I was due…months after I had already delivered her. SMH.
There will never be a shortage of people trying to steal your sunshine and it usually happens when you are feeling good about your self, your path and your efforts. It’s unfortunate. It’s real life though. Maybe it goes something like this...you are locked in and finally committed whole-heartedly to your health and fitness goals. You have never been so on point. You are following your plan to the letter and feeling on top of your game. Then...someone comes along and starts to nitpick, criticize or make fun of what you are doing. They may even make it sound like you are doing something ridiculous or just plain wrong.
Absolutely I agree that faith is stronger than fear. I also understand that faith goes beyond praying and sometimes praying is not enough.
Not everyone reading this is a Christian and that is ok because spirituality comes in many different forms and levels…and spirituality is a connection that is unique to each of us. No matter who or what you believe in, praying for a desired outcome is not enough. If you are not spiritual, wishing and wanting something to happen is certainly not enough either. I’ve had this conversation with a handful of my clients and friends and recently, it came up again but this time I feel compelled to speak out about it.