While there is nothing that makes me happier than being a mom, the responsibilities of motherhood have to be balanced with other things to have a healthy and happy life. I, like many moms, have struggled to make myself a priority. I have battled with feeling selfish and guilty when wanting to pursue my goals and dreams, as if I lost that right once I became a mother. I then came to realize that I am the example to my children and unless I want my children to give up on their dreams, I can’t give up on mine. Whatever your goals and aspirations are, I encourage you to step out of the shadows and go for it. By realizing your dreams and goals, not only will you be happier; you will be teaching others, including your loved ones, to live life to the fullest.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Marianne Williamson
~Liza Hughes xox
Absolutely I agree that faith is stronger than fear. I also understand that faith goes beyond praying and sometimes praying is not enough.
Not everyone reading this is a Christian and that is ok because spirituality comes in many different forms and levels…and spirituality is a connection that is unique to each of us. No matter who or what you believe in, praying for a desired outcome is not enough. If you are not spiritual, wishing and wanting something to happen is certainly not enough either. I’ve had this conversation with a handful of my clients and friends and recently, it came up again but this time I feel compelled to speak out about it.
One of the most important aspects of living the healthy lifestyle, for the long haul, is to train smart. With all the ‘fitspo’ flooding the internet it’s easy to feel like a failure when we miss a workout or two. One scroll down your newsfeed has enough motivation to make you feel like you can become a fitness model over night. I mean if ‘they’ are all doing it, why can’t you? Why do you do good for a period of time but then regress? The simple answer is, it doesn’t happen over night, it happens over time and most importantly, it happens with a smart plan. You don’t need anymore motivation, what you need is to train smarter. What does ‘train smart’ mean anyway? Training smart doesn’t mean you must train harder, or train longer...it means your plan has to strike a healthy balance with nutrition, exercise, sleep and emotional wellness; so that you can build a fit healthy body...for the long haul.
The heat is on...the mercury is rising and so is the desire to be in a bikini and feel like a hot mama. Mother’s everywhere know what it’s like to be too busy to blink. They are searching for balance between family and work. Some are still in college while others are trying to excel in their career or manage their own business. Most likely, all would love to feel fit, fabulous and I dare say, like a hot mama. What better time than summertime to make that happen? If you are a mom with kids that still live at home, your schedule is about to shift somewhat because soon, the kids will be on summer break. At first it may seem impossible to devote time to your health, fitness and wellness with the kids being at home more, but that is exactly why it is the best time. Taking advantage of the less stringent schedule will give you more time to lay down a solid foundation of healthy habits for you and your family, before the school year ramps up again.
We sometimes wish or pray...or both, for an easier ‘time’. Some days can be insanely overwhelming and situations might feel impossible. Over the past decade I’ve had much personal growth...emotional growth and honestly I just got to the point that I was so uncomfortable every day that something had to give. I had to make changes in my life. It took time, it took heartwork and it took lots of ‘letting go’. There will be times in our life where there are circumstances and consequences that feel so dreadfully difficult and exhausting and during these times is exactly when we must trust there is a lesson. Not everything will have a fairytale ending. Not everything will always be in our control either. That is a lesson in itself. As we push and fight our way through the darkness, we will gain renewed strength and clarity. All we can do is our personal best and once we've exhausted our efforts, it's time to accept and let go of whatever we are ALLOWING to hold us down. Yes, that IS in our control.
I can say that within my past there is not one emotion I have not felt. Happiness, joy, sadness, heartache, dread, anger, frustration, fear, shame, guilt and even loneliness...it has all run through my veins and deep into my heart and guess what...today I’m thanking God for all of it, because it’s a reminder that I have lived. This is what life is, a beautiful disaster of experiences, growth and evolvement. Just like a butterfly.
I’m embracing every emotion...whether good or bad, every decision...whether right or wrong, and every path...whether prosperous or a dead end; because all of these experiences have shaped me into the woman I am today. I wouldn’t change a thing. “This exact life” couldn’t be anymore imperfectly perfect and I love it.
Renew Your WoWs! Trust in you, promise yourself, be devoted to your dreams and plans, commit. ~Liza xox